29/03/2013 –
Friday
I’m pretty sure most of you these days
have seen or heard about people complaining about their love. It’s too obvious
because it’s too often till you are sick of that person because he/she keeps on
posting on Facebook/Twitter and other social media about their love life.
Seriously,
what is love? What do you understand about love?
I’ve seen, heard and known people. People
who so called ‘falls in love’ just by sight, a single encounter or a month’s
time. Just something so simple and yet they manage to call it ‘love’. Those
type of people confesses and fortunately starts dating, and unfortunately ends
up breaking up within 3 months, max. When they are in relationship, they’ll
keep on posting stuff like “Oh, I’ll love him/her forever. He/She is my
soulmate and stuff like that.” But once they break up they’ll blame on the
other side like “He/She is the worst person ever! He/She broke my heart! And nonsense
like that.”
In the end, this process goes on and on
for countless times. They ‘fall in love’ and break up as if it’s a weekly
routine. I’m sick of this nonsense! If you’re going to disgrace the word ‘love’
then at least do it in silence instead of telling the world how much the other
person has hurt you! For the people who does this sort of nonsense, have you
ever wondered if you’re the problem? You have dated 20 guys/girls in within 5
months, are you sure the 20 people are meant to be blamed?!
I am no dating expert and honestly I have
NEVER officially courted anyone before but here’s my opinion. Sincerity, trust
and tolerance are pillars to a relationship.
Sincerity. For guys, don’t just look at
the girl whom you think is attractive and say you’re in love with them already,
don’t just confess to the girl when you don’t even know a damn about her and
don’t ever bother saying ‘I love you’ if it comes from your mind when it is
supposed to come from your heart. I’m curious, why do you want to be in
relationship with a girl just because you THINK you’re in love with her? Why? Just
so you can be with her? So you can own her? Think about it and if you’re honest
with yourself, you’ll know what you need to do. I am a guy too so I understand
the difference between what we DESIRE and what we NEED also what are our ROLES
and RESPONSIBILTY. Wake up, stop screwing around and make your next girl, your
last.
Dear
girls, I bet you all know so well what in the world ‘sincerity’ is but guess
what, many of you don’t. You look at some hot guy with talent and you’re
already calling him your husband.(Example, KPOP fans) That’s pretty desperate
you know? You get distracted seriously easily, some girls even treasure their
idols more than they treasure the people whom are important to them. Will those
idols of yours protect you and take care of you? Will they? Stop spamming to
the world of how much you love your ‘boyfriend’ and go show your boyfriend that
you actually love him instead. Those girls who dates at least 3 guys in within
a month, are you sure that’s called ‘love’?
Trust. My fellow gentlemen, don’t just
expect your ‘girl’ can trust you without you assuring them. They will need your
constant assurance so that you don’t frickin do anything stupid. If you don’t
want a girl to bug you all the time, then tell her that she can trust you and
make sure that you can be trusted. If you’re just dating her for her popularity
or coz she’s just pretty, then I’d advice you to go get a life because ‘love’
is no joking matter. This world will crumble if we humans don’t ‘love’ it, we
all will die a horrible death. Concept is the same, so prove your worth and make
sure you can be trusted. Do not leave
your girl doubting you because for sure, your world will crumble if she leaves
you.
For some
of the girls out there, I’m sorry to say that you are torturing your own
boyfriend. You may think that you’re just constantly checking up on your
boyfriends or dominating all his time to make sure he isn’t spending his time
with some other girls but do you know you’re slowly making your own boyfriend
sick of you? I understand that you ‘love’ him so much that you would not want
him to taken away from you but some of your methods may seriously sickening.
Respect a man’s personal space and privacy. He needs his time to enjoy his
life! It’s okay to ask him spend his days with from time to time but expecting
him to attend to you 24/7 is like asking him to jump off the building for you.
You’re asking for too much!!! He needs his time to relax, play some video games
or have some man time with his fellow men. If your loved one tells you that you
can trust him, then do some investigation or experiment to prove is worth and
be done with it, not control his whole life! By the way, don’t give nonsensical
excuse such as “If he loves me, he’ll do this. If he loves me, he’ll do that.”
That’s just asking to be dumped.
Last but not least, tolerance. I believe
that many relationships broke apart because of the lack of tolerance. The couples
may sincerely love each other and trust each other but if they can’t tolerate
each other’s flaw, they are bound to separate one day. Why are people so
selfish these days? We always think of ourselves first, even in a relationship!
We just think of our importance, our own needs and desires! We’re supposed to
think of the boy/girl we love first!
Hey guys, the girls who really love you may
overdo things sometimes but you just have to remember this, they did it because
they love you. Let it go sometimes, just forgive and forget but if things are
totally utterly out of hand then just give in.
Guys are
supposed to protect and take care of their girl, not hurt them. So be tolerant
and never let things go out of hand because if you fall, your relationship with
the girl you love falls with you.
Especially to the girls out there who thinks
they are right but when in reality they are beyond wrong and yet refuse to
accept that they are wrong, hear this. Your jealousy level is very hilarious,
you know? You see your boyfriend chatting with 2 girls and you’re already
accusing him of cheating on you though you’re chatting with 10 other guys
yourself. “They are just friends.” Isn’t it the same excuse for the guys? How
valid is your logic then? You boyfriend doesn’t bring you out on dates, maybe
he’s broke because he brought you out on dates too many times, maybe he is too
busy, possibilities are endless. If your request is reasonable and he is just
some douchebag, then just dump him because he doesn’t worth your time.
Seriously,
I hope I don’t see too many. “I love him/her so much, he/she is the love of my
life. “ Then “Get out of my life, you broke my heart and betrayed my love!”
When your
‘love’ is nothing more than lack of attention because you’re weak and unable to
live on your own. So for those people who does all this nonsense, don’t say I’m
some kind of bastard for accusing you of having ‘puppy love’ because reality
slams you hard, your love is immature.
We don’t
love because we want that special someone to love us and pay attention to us.
We love
because we want to protect and love that special someone.
Don’t
just expect because we give more than receive when it comes to love. That is
love.
“Love is
patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It
is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no
record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It
always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. I found this from my
bible and I think it’s very meaningful. :3
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